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Four Signs That Healthy Love Is On Its Way | Psychology Today
I've found that four conditions often forecast the advent of real and healthy love. Love?s arrival feels like magic; a gift of luck. Yet we can invite that luck by approaching our dating life differently. If these shifts are happening for you, be encouraged. You?re probably well on the way to finding the kind of love that can last.
You lose your taste for ?attractions of deprivation?
It?s easy to become attracted to people who can almost commit; people who treat us wonderfully--and then diminish, demean or ignore us. These relationships are usually highly charged and gnawingly addictive. Like a slot machine, they keep us coming back for more. We long to get it right, to get our partner to love us. We struggle to improve ourselves. We play hard to get. We try giving more, or we practice giving less. We try to be funnier, more successful or more in-shape, so that our desired one will finally want us as much as we want them.
I call these attractions of deprivation.
At a certain point, (and usually as a result of tremendous pain) we begin to lose our taste for relationships that chip away at our sense of self-worth. We find we just can?t stomach the thought of being hurt like that again. And this is a great thing. When we become less ?sticky? to these kinds of attractions, a dead-end era of our dating lives is finally coming to an end. Now, we can begin the real work of intimacy--cultivating our attraction to relationships that feed and nurture us.
Kindness and availability become more important to you
As we lose our taste for attractions of deprivation, we usually experience a temporary void in our dating life. We know we don?t want the pain of past relationships, but nothing else seems as exciting. In time, (and often with guidance) we begin to seek what I call attractions of inspiration.
These attractions are based upon a (basically) consistent quality of shared kindness, generosity, and emotional availability. They often unfold slowly. They get richer as time goes on. They make us feel love, not desperation.
We can measure the very quality of our lives by the relationships of mutual inspiration we've cultivated.
The joy we feel in these relationships doesn?t come from conquest or momentary validation, but from an essential quality of contentment we feel with our partners. We don?t feel consistently bigger or smaller than the object of our affections. In some basic way, we feel what the twelve-step programs call ?right sized.? But most of us have never been taught that these relationships have a trajectory of their own. They need to be cultivated and nourished in different ways than we might be used to. It may seem that they are not as exciting at first, but in fact, they are much more so.
There is a thrilling risk available to us in these relationships?the risk of revealing our authentic self. If we take that risk with our partners and find that we are accepted and embraced, the erotic and emotional charge of the relationship deepens and intensifies. These are the people who deserve to see the real us: our wild self, our kinky self, our unshared ideas, our tender soul.
And by the way, that?s precisely why these are the scariest relationships of all. Our fear may do anything to save us from the risk of vulnerability. It's best strategy is to trick us into fleeing by shouting ?Next! Back to the hunt!? But if we don?t flee, we may find that the fear passes, and a deeper, more passionate love shows through on the other side.
If you find that you are seeking these relationships and ignoring the thrill of your attractions of deprivation, then celebrate. You?re on the path to a relationship that can sustain a future of love.
You become willing to give up your ?flight patterns?
All of us, single or coupled, flee the heat and the risks of true intimacy. All of us. Any single person who wants to find love would do well to become a student of his or her own ?flight patterns.? There are so many ways to flee intimacy, even as we seek it:
Staying home and watching TV every night.?Surfing the net, instead of going to places where people with shared values can be found.?Wasting time on attractions of deprivation.?Not being authentic. Chatting online but never taking the steps to meet.?Playing it cool. Looking for hookups instead of dates. Drinking too much on our dates.
At a certain point, we really start to mean it in our search for a life-partner. We realize that time is ticking, that we are growing tired of living and sleeping alone (Please note, this isn?t true for everyone. Many of us are quite happy living solo.)
When we?re willing to let go of our flight patterns; when we find ways to meet people who share our values; and when we only have second or third dates with people who hold the promise of becoming attractions of inspiration, then things really begin to change.
You lead with your authentic self.
Leading with your authentic self may seem on the surface like an easy thing, but it?s not. We get most wounded around the places we care the most. These are the parts of us that I call ?core gifts.? Because our authentic self is so vulnerable and because most of us have incurred profound wounding around our core gifts, we tend to either suppress them or create air-brushed versions of them for the world to see. But these versions of self lack the vigor, soul and magnetism of our authentic self, so we find we are less successful in attracting the very people who would accept and treasure us for who we are.
I?ve found that the key does not lie in simply accepting our authentic self, in all its humanity. The key lies in treasuring it, in all its timidity, imperfection and excess. We have the right to honor our core gifts, and to only choose people who can do the same.
When we do that in a non-defensive way, our world begins to change. That?s when we somehow find ourselves dating people who accept us for who we are; people who are kind, generous of spirit and available. I can?t explain why this happens, but I?ve see it occur so many times that I?ve come to accept it as a happy truth in the frequently treacherous world of dating.
Instead of helping us embrace our core gifts, the singles world teaches us to dishonor them?in ourselves and in the people we date. Like those ugly fun-house mirrors, the prevailing singles culture flashes distorted, haunting images at us--images of our own flaws and inadequacies and of the inadequacies of the people we date. The solution is not to find our self-esteem within the walls of that hall of mirrors. It is to get out, and to find a better path.
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Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/finding-love/201210/four-signs-healthy-love-is-its-way
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Sexually abused women much less likely to be screened for cervical cancer, research finds
ScienceDaily (Oct. 2, 2012) ? Women who have been sexually abused as children or young adults are much less likely to get screened for cervical cancer than other women, indicates exploratory research published in the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health Care.
Figures published last year by the national NHS Cervical Cancer Screening Programme indicate that around one in five eligible women had not been tested for the disease within the previous five years, as recommended.
Screening can help cut the risk of developing an invasive and potentially fatal cervical cancer. And a recent audit showed that only just over a quarter of such cases in England arose in women who had attended for regular checks as part of the national screening programme.
The research team analysed the responses of 135 women to a survey posted on the website of the British charity, the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC). Four respondents also took part in a discussion group early in 2011.
The women were asked for their views and experiences of cervical screening, and what type of abuse they had endured.
Among those aged 24 to 65 -- the current age band for cervical screening in England -- three out of four (77.5%) said they had been screened at some point, and almost half had been screened within the previous five years.
But only just over four out of 10 (42%) of those aged 25 to 49 had been screened within the previous 3 years, in line with the current UK recommendation.
And one in four of this age group had not been screened for more than five years while one in 10 had not been screened at all.
Among the 124 women who responded to the open ended questions about what put them off screening, 32 said they had no intention of going or going again. Two said they would rather die than endure the procedure ever again.
Almost one in four (23%) respondents made comments reflecting low self esteem, and one in five (21%) said they found the procedure painful. And almost one in three (29%) said the procedure made them feel powerless, while 38% said it evoked similar feelings to those they experienced at the time of the abuse.
One in five highlighted issues relating to trust, safety and disclosure, while one in three made at least one comment relating to fear and anxiety.
One in eight also complained that few healthcare professionals understood the impact of sexual abuse on the ability to go through with the procedure and that the screening invitation letters contain no signposting to sources of information and support for those who might have been abused.
An accompanying editorial, written by NAPAC's training and development manager Sarah Kelly, points out that the charity receives around 350 calls/emails from adult survivors every month, two thirds of whom are women.
"Self worth, self esteem, and self concept....impact on how women access health services or care for and value themselves," writes Ms Kelly.
"Many of the female survivors we hear from, talk about their fears and anxieties when accessing services, particularly sexual health, gynaecology, and breast wellbeing," she says.
And she adds: "Many survivors are aware of the increased risk of not being screened and we repeatedly hear that some would rather deal with cervical cancer if it develops than face the experience of regular testing."
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- L. Cadman, J. Waller, L. Ashdown-Barr, A. Szarewski. Barriers to cervical screening in women who have experienced sexual abuse: an exploratory study. Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health Care, 2012; 38 (4): 214 DOI: 10.1136/jfprhc-2012-100378
- S. Kelly. The effects of childhood sexual abuse on women's lives and their attitudes to cervical screening. Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health Care, 2012; 38 (4): 212 DOI: 10.1136/jfprhc-2012-100418
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the ABC kidZ: "Rock of Ages" comes to DVD! {Movie Review}
The smash-hit Broadway musical, Rock of Ages,?made it?to the big screen, and now it's making it's way to Best Buy on October 9th! Be sure to head over to Best Buy next week to grab your DVD copy of this movie. "Rock of Ages" is about a small town girl named Sherrie who meets a city boy named Drew on the Sunset Strip while pursuing their Hollywood dreams.? The romantic narrative moves along with the?help of songs that, if you grew up in the 80's, will be very familiar to you!
My Review:
Thanks to Warner Bros. Pictures and Best Buy, I was given the chance to have a private in-home screening of this movie.
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What did I think??
Disclaimer: This reviewer has been compensated in the form of a Best Buy Gift Card and/or received the product/service at a reduced price or for free in exchange for this post.
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Samsung Galaxy Victory 4G LTE Video Review Part 2
Aaron does a video review of Sprint's Samsung Galaxy Victory 4G LTE, one of the carrier's new LTE smartphones.? Available now for $99.99 on contract, the Victory sports a 1.2 GHz dual-core Snapdragon S4 Lite CPU, 4-inch WVGA display, 5-megapixel camera with 720p HD recording, front-facing camera, 2,100 mAh battery, and Android 4.0 with TouchWiz.? The Galaxy Victory is a nice mid-range device, but the $99 price point is a bit steep considering the other devices on the market.? Is it worth considering?? Part 2 of 2.
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